One Deerfield Parent’s Reactions to the Home Invasion

The emotions I have felt since hearing that two Deerfield teens were arrested for a Highland Park home invasion have ranged from fear and shock to anger and sadness.

A flood of emotions has overcome me in the last few days surrounding . Operating under the assumption that the police arrested the right suspects, I also have a lot of questions; too many questions that I clearly do not and likely will not ever have the answers to.

FEAR. When I first read about the burglary, then the gun, then the apprehension of suspects, I was scared. Scared for what had occurred. The intruders who were allegedly trying to escape genuinely upset at the entire situation.

SHOCK. Then, finding out that the two Deerfield teens were arrested for the burglary and that police said they, I was in complete shock. The questions bounced around in my head: Why did this happen? Why would they do this? Where did they get a gun? What led to this?

ANGER. My questions led me to start thinking through the situation even further which made me angry. What if the police had not found the gun and a child playing in the park had found it? What if instead of dropping the gun in the park the accused were carrying it with them while they ran and saw a resident jogging in the park? What would have happened then? What kind of situation could have allegedly caused these teens to make such bad decisions?

SADNESS. As I thought through those scenarios, I became sad. Sad for the victims, the neighborhood and our community. Sad that we are in a situation such as this, even though we are so fortunate that no one was physically hurt.

I became sad for the families and friends of the teens accused of this crime. I cannot imagine what they have been going through the last few days and what they have in store for them over the next few months. I do not know these families but I know the road ahead of them will not be an easy one.

Finally, I am sad for the accused teens. They are being tried as adults, but they are still kids. Kids make bad choices — we all have at one time or another. Not to the extreme being outlined in this case, but bad choices nonetheless. I am sad that these boys may have thought this was an answer to whatever issue was occurring. 

LINGERING QUESTIONS. For now, there remain too many questions unanswered. And a few questions I am certain many families want to know. Will these boys be allowed back at when school resumes in a few weeks? Will we find out where the gun came from and what these teens were allegedly hoping to accomplish by this act?

Time will tell.

For news about Deerfield and Highland Park in your mailbox every day, subscribe to the Patch newsletter. For more news and updates, like Highland Park and Deerfield Patch on Facebook.

David Greenberg September 09, 2012 at 06:20 PM
I too agree with Take the High Road. However, I disagree with Molly in some regard - where she says that "We, the public, will not be told every detail (nor do we need to be) of what has happened.", short of a present-day classified operation involving National Security (where we get the info 50 yrs later), yes - we do need to be told all of the details. And it's not to be 'nosy', but rather to do our job as the Public is the one to "Watch the Watchers." How can you know that the accused is getting a fair trial without the details? How can you know that the victim is likewise having their rights protected without the details? How can you know that your tax dollars are being properly spent w/o the details? As has been said, sunlight is the best disinfectant - and in this case, sunlight is the details.
David Greenberg September 09, 2012 at 06:29 PM
I'd hazard a guess that what's going on with 17 & 18 yr olds is what's always gone on for as long as we can remember. Old kids/young adults starting out on the path to adulthood who think they know it all, don't realize they don't know it all, and who make mistakes that they sometimes look back on as adults and say "Wow, we were such idiots. I can't believe we did that." Now that said, there's mistakes (such as buying a car that looked great but ran like a tank) which you survive, and there's mistakes (such as the most recent stories we've been talking about) that impact one's lives for a very long time, possibly forever. You can try to be involved, you can try to read their Twitter and Facebook pages. You can try to talk to their friends. But you have to realize that talking relies on trust. And if your kids are lying to you and doing a good job of concealing the truth on their Twitter/FB pages, you may not know what's actually going on. That's why I believe it's important to tell your kids the truth about life when they're 15, 16, 17, 18. If you did some crazy stuff - discuss it with your kids. Own up to it - explain how you've thought about it over the years and why it was wrong, and what could have happened. Talk to them about consequences - stuff you get away with as a kid, and how it's handled as an adult. But also realize that no matter how much you say, or try to do, they may just have to experience somethings for themselves before it sinks in.
Molly September 10, 2012 at 01:06 AM
David...I was thinking of the personal details of what any family may or may not have done over the past 18 years, not the legal process.
Madukes September 14, 2012 at 07:37 AM
@dad, it's become way scarier than Reefer Madness. Heroin is cheap and available and being brought into our neighborhoods and schools. 100% addictive. Heroin addicts will do ANYTHING for money for the next fix. It's almost as accurate to say it's to avoid the excruciating "sick" they get if the next dose is delayed as for the mellow they get when injected.
Benny G. October 03, 2012 at 08:29 AM
There is only one guaranty in all this ridiculous nonsense: This incident has been blown WAY out of proportion as it relates to what happened and the motive of these young white suburban criminals.... LMAO... What a colossal joke this all is. Carry on with it---


More »
Got a question? Something on your mind? Talk to your community, directly.
Note Article
Just a short thought to get the word out quickly about anything in your neighborhood.
Share something with your neighbors.What's on your mind?What's on your mind?Make an announcement, speak your mind, or sell somethingPost something
See more »